Comments on: Thoughts on polyamor http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/ Gender, Autism, Sexuality, Travels, Activism and a lots of cake. Welcome! Wed, 11 Feb 2009 18:39:52 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: nix http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-175 nix Mon, 28 Jul 2008 05:36:47 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-175 the "my" point is interesting. i am going to think about it more . . . i usually refer to 'my partner' rather than using a name in contexts where i think sexuality isn't relevant but i think that it might have some impact on the way i'm being treated. but i wonder if there's another way of doing that . . . the “my” point is interesting. i am going to think about it more . . . i usually refer to ‘my partner’ rather than using a name in contexts where i think sexuality isn’t relevant but i think that it might have some impact on the way i’m being treated. but i wonder if there’s another way of doing that . . .

]]> By: kontakt http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-167 kontakt Thu, 17 Jul 2008 05:33:22 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-167 Japanese people who introduce themselves in their work say things like "I am Mitsubhishi's Tanaka", because who they work for is important in context. You might possibly say you are "KIM's Fredrik", in Japanese that is :P Japanese people who introduce themselves in their work say things like “I am Mitsubhishi’s Tanaka”, because who they work for is important in context. You might possibly say you are “KIM’s Fredrik”, in Japanese that is :P

]]> By: punkfairy http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-156 punkfairy Sun, 13 Jul 2008 00:41:07 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-156 Arla: well, yeah I know. I guess I can get a little too excited sometimes :-P haha. Arla: well, yeah I know.

I guess I can get a little too excited sometimes :-P
haha.

]]> By: punkfairy http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-155 punkfairy Sat, 12 Jul 2008 16:39:36 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-155 ah, well, I think you can find some info on LJ or Myspace. There's also a club on facebook. :) RA is also known as "unlimited relations". ^^ ah, well, I think you can find some info on LJ or Myspace. There’s also a club on facebook. :) RA is also known as “unlimited relations”. ^^

]]> By: Jacky V. http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-154 Jacky V. Sat, 12 Jul 2008 16:35:41 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-154 OK, never heard of that one. Will have to look that up, sounds interesting. OK, never heard of that one. Will have to look that up, sounds interesting.

]]> By: Arla http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-153 Arla Sat, 12 Jul 2008 15:34:10 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-153 "My" is a genitive pronoun. The genitive is also called possessive, but it doesn't only imply ownership. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genitive_case Thus, when someone says "my friend", it has nothing to do with them owning someone else, but only that the relationship is between {the friend} and {"me"}. Btw, RA rox :) “My” is a genitive pronoun. The genitive is also called possessive, but it doesn’t only imply ownership. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genitive_case

Thus, when someone says “my friend”, it has nothing to do with them owning someone else, but only that the relationship is between {the friend} and {“me”}.

Btw, RA rox :)

]]> By: punkfairy http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-150 punkfairy Sat, 12 Jul 2008 08:02:46 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-150 Jacky: Yeah, I agree with you. I dont like "my" (heck, I dont like it when I say "my dog" even), but I shouldnt complain about it cause I dont have a solution or another word thats better. >.> By RA I mean the relations anarchists. :) Jacky: Yeah, I agree with you. I dont like “my” (heck, I dont like it when I say “my dog” even), but I shouldnt complain about it cause I dont have a solution or another word thats better. >.>

By RA I mean the relations anarchists. :)

]]> By: Jacky V. http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-149 Jacky V. Sat, 12 Jul 2008 06:50:54 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-149 Hmmm. I'm non-monogamous too (I prefer that term as well). The "my" thing never bothered me because I never saw it as possessive but more like an indicator of a relationship, just like "my mother/father/daughter / brother/etc." In other words, it's a simplified way of indicating the nature of a person's relationship to oneself. Curious: what do you mean by ra community? Anyway, I'm not into ranking either, although I do recognise that not all relationships have the same value to me. It's not so much a quantitative difference as it is a qulaititative one. Hmmm. I’m non-monogamous too (I prefer that term as well). The “my” thing never bothered me because I never saw it as possessive but more like an indicator of a relationship, just like “my mother/father/daughter / brother/etc.” In other words, it’s a simplified way of indicating the nature of a person’s relationship to oneself.

Curious: what do you mean by ra community?

Anyway, I’m not into ranking either, although I do recognise that not all relationships have the same value to me. It’s not so much a quantitative difference as it is a qulaititative one.

]]> By: punkfairy http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-146 punkfairy Fri, 11 Jul 2008 21:43:49 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-146 Yeah, but the "my" label feels wrong in poly and ra communities. Like "that person is mine. no matter what. I dont want to share". I might think like this because of my thoughts on relationships tho Yeah, but the “my” label feels wrong in poly and ra communities. Like “that person is mine. no matter what. I dont want to share”. I might think like this because of my thoughts on relationships tho

]]> By: whatsername http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/2008/07/11/thoughts-on-polyamour/#comment-145 whatsername Fri, 11 Jul 2008 20:50:30 +0000 http://itsnotmyfault.wordpress.com/?p=58#comment-145 Hmmmm... I think the "my" thing is ok as long as the label you're applying ("my husband" for example) is one that the person undertook willingly and all that. Like, my husband chose to be my husband, he's not anyone else's husband, just mine...so it's a descriptive word more than anything else? Hmmmm… I think the “my” thing is ok as long as the label you’re applying (“my husband” for example) is one that the person undertook willingly and all that. Like, my husband chose to be my husband, he’s not anyone else’s husband, just mine…so it’s a descriptive word more than anything else?

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